Conflict is normal wherever people work together. Handled early and fairly, it can even make a team stronger.
| Cause | Examples |
|---|---|
| Unclear roles | Two people think the same task is theirs, or neither does |
| Scheduling and workload | Unfair shifts, holiday coverage, uneven workload, last-minute changes |
| Communication gaps | Messages missed, tone misread in text, information not shared |
| Competing goals | Kitchen speed vs front-of-house quality; sales vs operations |
| Personality and work style | Detail-focused vs big-picture, direct vs indirect |
| Resources | Equipment, budget, space, the best shifts |
| Perceived unfairness | Favoritism, inconsistent rules, unequal recognition |
| Change | New managers, processes or technology |
Scheduling is a major source of friction in shift-based teams. Our guide on scheduling conflicts at work covers that specific case.
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Not all conflict is bad. Disagreement about ideas can lead to better decisions. Conflict becomes harmful when it turns personal, drags on or affects customers and coworkers.
| Healthy | Harmful |
|---|---|
| About tasks and ideas | About people and personalities |
| Open and direct | Hidden, through gossip or avoidance |
| Resolved and forgotten | Repeated and growing |
| Leads to better solutions | Leads to turnover, absences and mistakes |
A widely used model describes five ways people handle conflict, based on how much they focus on their own goals and on the other person’s. Each has a place.
| Style | What it looks like | When it fits |
|---|---|---|
| Competing | Pushing your position | Emergencies, safety, clear policy violations |
| Accommodating | Giving the other person what they want | When the issue matters more to them than to you |
| Avoiding | Postponing or stepping away | Trivial issues, or to let emotions cool briefly |
| Compromising | Each side gives something | Time pressure, equal power, moderate stakes |
| Collaborating | Finding a solution that meets both sides’ needs | Important issues and ongoing relationships |
Managers who know their own default style can choose a better one when the situation calls for it.
| Situation | What to say |
|---|---|
| Opening a private meeting | “I’ve noticed some tension between you and Sam. I want to understand your view and help sort it out.” |
| Keeping it neutral | “I’m not here to decide who is right. I want to find a way for you to work well together.” |
| Redirecting from personal attacks | “Let’s focus on what happened and what we can do differently, not on personalities.” |
| Uncovering interests | “What matters most to you here?” |
| Moving to solutions | “What would a good outcome look like for you?” |
| Closing | “So we agree that… I’ll check in with both of you next Friday.” |
Conflicts between an employee and their own manager are harder to resolve internally because of the power difference. Provide a clear path for employees to raise concerns with another manager or HR. Leaders should model accepting feedback and should never punish an employee for raising a concern in good faith.
Federal laws such as Title VII of the Civil Rights Act, which generally covers employers with 15 or more employees, prohibit workplace discrimination and harassment based on protected characteristics, and many state laws cover smaller employers. These laws also prohibit retaliation against employees who complain or take part in an investigation. Document facts carefully and consult HR or legal counsel. Our guide on managing difficult employees covers documentation and discipline.
Unresolved conflict rarely disappears. It shows up as absences, mistakes, poor customer service, gossip and resignations. Employees who see a manager ignore conflict may conclude that complaints are pointless, so problems go underground. Compare the cost of a few hours of manager time with the cost of replacing an experienced employee; our guide to reducing employee turnover explains what turnover costs.
In restaurants, retail, healthcare and other shift work, conflicts often come from handoffs, shared stations, tip pooling, shift trades and unequal workloads between shifts. Clear opening and closing checklists, a shift handoff note and a short pre-shift meeting remove many triggers. A shared task list shows who is responsible for what, and announcements ensure every shift hears the same message.
Act early, check whether a policy or legal issue is involved, meet each person separately, identify the real issue, meet together with ground rules, focus on interests, generate options, agree on specific actions and follow up.
There is no single best style. Collaborating works well for important issues and ongoing relationships, but compromising, accommodating, avoiding or competing each fit certain situations.
When there are allegations of harassment, discrimination, threats, violence, safety or pay violations, when policy violations may lead to discipline, or when informal efforts have not worked.
Meet each person privately to understand their views, then bring them together in a neutral setting, focus on behaviors and interests rather than personalities, agree on specific actions and follow up.
It is difficult. If there is a close relationship or the manager is part of the conflict, involve another manager or HR to keep the process fair.
Clarify roles, schedule fairly and transparently, communicate consistently, apply rules evenly, train managers and create regular channels for feedback.
Yes. Brief notes on what each person said, what was agreed and the follow-up date help you check progress and show the process was fair. Keep notes factual and store them securely.
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